I think they've got a little bag of tricks and they use it with everyone. BY VISITING THE WEBSITE, YOU ARE CONSENTING TO THE FOLLOWING TERMS OF USE. Like, [00:42:31] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: "Oh, I'm doing this. [00:42:27] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: Because if they were going to be super honest about it, that's pretty dark. That's what's awesome about Zapier. Ask anyone who's ever broken up with a narcissist, they'll say, "Wait a minute. They just didn't have the guts to be as awful as the people on TV until they saw that it was being rewarded. It just sounds horrible. And it was almost like, I'd be like, "Hey man, this is awkward for me to see because I've known your girlfriend for five years," and he is like, "Well, you didn't see anything." It's projecting your stuff on other people. And so for them, in some ways, sealing the deal with someone quicker can take away that insecure fear of abandonment. Search over 700 THERE ARE PROVISIONS BELOW CONSTITUTING A WAIVER OF CERTAIN LEGAL RIGHTS. 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It's actually about the beautiful boy who was cursed. [00:17:24] Jordan Harbinger: When I was reading the book, I noticed this. So that's progress. Lifetime Brands, Dean & Professor at Fairfield University The Website is based in the United States. With your membership, you will gain access to monthly events, journal prompts, and a private/secure online community platform. at [00:29:09] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: You tried to intervene. Here, we discuss how narcissists are made, what makes them tick, and how to protect yourself from a narcissist when you find them unavoidable. And now, I'm like, wait, no, he was definitely not getting about that at all. 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It's not healthy, but I don't think it creates narcissism. "Yeah. In 2012, she was the recipient of the . TO THE MAXIMUM EXTENT PERMITTED BY LAW, COMPANY EXPRESSLY DISCLAIMS ANY AND ALL WARRANTIES, EXPRESS OR IMPLIED, REGARDING THE WEBSITE, INCLUDING, BUT NOT LIMITED TO, ANY IMPLIED WARRANTIES OF MERCHANTABILITY, FITNESS FOR A PARTICULAR PURPOSE, OR NONINFRINGEMENT. [00:12:26] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: you're not going to notice that noise anymore. But you know, you're absolutely right. [01:02:28] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: Accusing someone of being like in a sexually inappropriate or having poor boundaries with other people when those poor boundaries and inappropriate behavior is your thing. THIS IS A BINDING AGREEMENT. [00:16:43] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: I think one set of jerk finders are young. Well, the huh means it's likely their stuff. That's how they kind of get the whole cycle planted and how they almost train people to put up with their nonsense. [00:33:54] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: Narcissistic people constantly need validation and admiration. And so, they're so used to, again, a frictionless world that when it's not, they get a little snappy. at And if I were to correct them, put a gentle hand on their shoulder and say, "Ooh, that's not a good look." We sort of habituate to abruptness, coldness, dismissiveness, manipulativeness, all of it. A person is kidnapped, a person is assaulted, a person is in a terrible accident, that kind of thing. And my lawyer was like, "Well, I'm going to put a stop to this because I'm going to report this to the judge." But I'll tell you the difference in that person who might say, "Well, he's getting away with it, so I'm going to try to get away with it," that person who's sort of following along, it feels more uncomfortable for them because it's sort of not who they are because their empathy kicks in and says, "Well this isn't cool, those other people have been waiting in line for 20 minutes. I'm comfortable with all of them. [01:00:33] So I think a lot of Instagram is just incredible immaturity. Well, that can happen with narcissism as well. This is kind of the narcissist drug addict, you know, addicted to validation person's game. Be sure to catch part two here!]. I have some more questions about these dysregulations and people in relationships with narcissists later on as well. May I send Dr. Ramani suggestions for future Youtube content? [00:35:15] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: Getting an accolade, getting an honor, getting an award, having a ton of money, you know, that sort of thing, that stuff goes a long way to helping prop up that fragile ego, that poorly developed sense of self. Find contact details for 700 million professionals. [00:57:59] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: but that's not your usual you." INTELLECTUAL PROPERTY / RESTRICTIONS ON USE. I used to save the file, download it, then zip it up, put it in a folder, upload it, and then let everyone know. 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Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a psychologist, professor of psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and founder of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting, where she educates individuals . [00:40:14] One thing you mentioned in the book that was really, really tricky and devious in a way where I was like, wow, that's smart and scary was, I don't know, if this is a flag or a tell, but they want to meet your family really fast, which initially seems romantic but it's actually quite cunning because then it raises its stakes, right? [00:52:58] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: "smarter than anybody else." (business & personal). You want your name on the marquee. And if you don't hit the mark with that, then they are going to get enraged because that's all they need from you. A personality style is not contagious. And so that's an interesting thing to think about and kind of, well, it's also really sad. They're very sophisticated in how they move the money. 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Would you go as far as to say, maybe you even seek it out because you're already good at managing it if your parents are narcissists or if your ex is a narcissist? You don't even have to know how to code. So what that means is that when a person who has been in a narcissistic relationship meets someone like this, that whole good day, bad day, high, low plays into that original narrative of what love is. Nothing ever works out for me. I didn't get enough sleep or whatever it might have been happening, but what we look for is how quickly a person attempts to make it, right? And almost a sense as an adult, you might even work through what might have been a childhood relationship. [00:29:07] Dr. Ramani Durvasula: Correct. We can help. It's very much a sit here and wait for my validation. And yet, they're somehow elevating themselves onto this plane where they're amazing and entitled. If other people saw it, it was almost immediate. 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